In August 2024, Charlie was matched with Suzie, a volunteer mentor through our intandem project. Charlie was referred due to low self-esteem and confidence, parental substance use, behaviour problems and child/parental mental health.
Charlie resides in kinship care with his great grandmother and has done for a number of years. Charlie has siblings who also live in a kinship placement elsewhere and have done since birth.
Suzie and Charlie have taken part in a wide range of activities during their time together twice a month, including Go Karting – a firm favourite of Charlie’s – escape rooms, and group outings like bowling . One of the highlights of their time together was a personalised tour of Aberdeen Fire Station, organised by Suzie to support Charlie’s passion for the fire service. The visit included a guided tour by local firefighters who demonstrated equipment and discussed the recruitment process. This experience opened up further discussions around local cadet programmes and potential pathways for Charlie to pursue his dream of becoming a firefighter.
Over time, Charlie has grown more comfortable opening up to Suzie about personal issues, challenges at school, and his worries about the future. Topics like drugs and alcohol, upcoming exams, and general life pressures have all been discussed in a safe, supportive environment. Suzie has provided not only fun experiences but also a listening ear and non-judgemental support during an important time in Charlie’s life.
Charlie’s referrer shared:
“I’ve spoken to Charlie a couple of times about his new mentor, Suzie. I’ve also had feedback from his Grandma and it sounds like it’s going very well. Charlie is enjoying his time with her.”
Suzie reflected on her experience as a mentor:
“Charlie has made it easy. I really didn’t need to try too hard to get him to chat – right from the start we were comfortable with each other. Despite his past experiences and current situation, he is a remarkably mature, easy-going young man. We have fun on our outings.”
Charlie’s mentoring journey is a strong example of how consistent, caring adult relationships can help young people feel seen, heard, and supported. Through engaging activities, shared interests, and open conversation, Charlie is not only building confidence but also laying foundations for a more hopeful and empowered future.
If you have been inspired by Charlie and Suzy’s story and would like to learn more about how you can get involved, please reach out to o.polak@befriendachild.org.uk today!