Billy was initially referred to us due to low self-esteem and confidence, social isolation, behavioural challenges and a need for a positive adult role model. He currently lives with his grandma and has been matched with his mentor, David, for the past six months.
Billy has always found school difficult. He experienced bullying throughout primary school and is currently attending on a part-time basis. He struggles to make friends and socialise with others, often spending much of his time on his computer. At home, his grandma can sometimes find his behaviour challenging, as Billy may overstep boundaries and use inappropriate language.
When Billy was first matched with David, he would often test boundaries by using inappropriate language and requesting unhealthy drinks and snacks. David’s initial focus was to establish clear and consistent boundaries, helping Billy understand what to expect during their time together. Although Billy was resistant at first, he gradually began to accept and respect these boundaries.
As their relationship has developed, David’s goals for Billy have evolved. He is now focused on encouraging Billy to socialise more with peers face-to-face, while also supporting him to manage his frustrations and make more positive choices at home, at school and during their outings. Through their trusting and nurturing relationship, Billy has become more open and engaged, particularly when meeting new people.
Billy’s grandma has already noticed a significant difference. When asked how the mentoring was going, she said:
“Billy is always eager and excited to go on his outings with David and always comes home excited and ready to tell me what they got up to”.
Together, David and Billy have taken part in a wide range of activities, including attending the Befriend a Child Christmas party, going to the pantomime, swimming, visiting farms and enjoying meals out.
On one occasion, Billy said he was going to be miserable during their outing. When David asked why, Billy explained:
“When I go out with you we always have so much fun and time passes too quickly and then I have to go back home, so if I tell myself that I’m not having fun and I’m miserable time will go slowly and we will have more time together”.
When asked what he enjoys about mentoring, David shared:
“I enjoy everything about my match and my time with Billy. Billy is not only comfortable around me but his confidence is growing, which is something I want to carry on encouraging”.
Billy’s journey highlights just how powerful a consistent, positive mentoring relationship can be. Through his time with David, he has grown in confidence, begun to better manage his behaviour, and is becoming more open to building relationships with others. Having a trusted adult role model has provided Billy with stability, encouragement and the support he needs to thrive. If Billy’s story has inspired you and you would like to help make a difference in a young person’s life, please get in touch with Olivia at o.polak@befriendachild.org.uk to find out more about becoming a mentor.